Imagine being Richard Branson, Oprah Winfrey, Warren Buffet, Arianna Huffington, or Tony Robbins for a day, a week, or even an entire year. How would your life change if you started thinking, feeling, and acting like one of these iconic legends? How would it transform your mindset, decisions, and behavior?
The truth is that successful individuals are not lucky– they know what they want, master their mindset, practice daily rituals, and they follow a proven strategy that works for them. The best way to achieve success is to model success. By turning to the successful people in your life and studying their path to success, you can achieve success even more quickly and easily.
You don’t need to reinvent the wheel. Simply learn from the best.
For instance, when I made the decision to become a professional speaker a few years ago, I set an intention to look for someone to model. I attended Toastmasters and found an incredible mentor – Joel Weldon, a Hall of Fame professional speaker and wonderful human being. Observing and mirroring the way Joel prepares for speaking engagements and connects with the audience has been invaluable.
The concept of modeling has been around for centuries, but the technique gained recognition through Richard Bandler and John Grinder’s work in the field of Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP). I believe that modeling is one of the most powerful NLP skills.
What is modeling?
At its core, modeling is about achieving an outcome by studying how someone else goes about it. Here are three tips to help you leverage the power of modeling in your own life:
- Decide What You Want to Change or Improve
Successful people understand the importance of an effective strategy – they regularly evaluate and re-evaluate their own strategies to ensure that they produce consistent results.
Ask yourself the following questions regarding your own systems for success:
- What am I currently doing?
- Am I getting the results that I want?
- If not, what is not working?
Once you understand what needs to change, you can determine the skills that you want to improve or the steps that you need to take to get from where you are to where you want to be.
- Find a Model of Excellence
No matter what you want to improve or what steps you need to take to get there, chances are that someone has already done it. You can make life simpler by mirroring people who have the skills or results that you would like to achieve.
Ask yourself, “Who in my life or professional arena can serve as a model?” If you do not already have strong models, make it a point to find one and research their success strategies.
Nowadays, it is not difficult to find information on someone. For example, to learn more about Tony Robbins’ strategies for success, I watch many YouTube videos, read his books, and I have attended his live events. Amazingly, most of the information I got is absolutely free.
Perhaps you personally know someone who you can model in your own life, or you can ask to be connected to someone who can share their experiences with you.
Explore your model’s mindset and then condition your own mind with the same focus, clarity, and grit to take your life to the next level. You can also explore your model’s physiology and the specific strategies that underlie their skills or behaviors. Find out how they got to where they are today, what kind of challenges they faced, and how they overcame them. Then, use this information to replicate their strategies for success.
Consider asking the following questions to elicit the step-by-step strategies that your model follows to get results. Please note that you may need to repeat these questions several times.
- “What happened before that?”
- “What happened next?”
- “How did you know?”
- “What does that mean?”
- Take the Good. Leave the Bad.
No one is flawless. No matter how great your mentor is at what he/she does, be mindful to model only those behaviors that you wish to adopt. For example, your model may be successful in their business, but their family life or social life may not be ideal. You can have other models for different areas of your life.
You are a unique person with your own style and strengths. You do not want to become a clone of anyone. Choose a path that will allow you to leverage someone else’s success strategies while going about it in your own authentic way. You will be happier, and the world will get to experience YOU.
When you have the right strategy, nothing is out of your reach – it will help you get healthier, create the relationships you desire, or take your career or business to the next level.
Who are your models? Feel free to share them in the comment section below!
To learn more about modeling or to register for my upcoming NLP Practitioner Certification training from August 23-29 in Scottsdale, feel free to visit www.veredkogan.com or email me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org.
To your success and fulfillment!