It’s hard to believe that we’re more than half way through 2018 already. I hope your summer has been filled with many happy moments!
My family and I recently returned from Iceland and Scandinavia. Fully re-energized, I want to share with you the benefits of pausing and reflecting for creating an even more fulfilling and successful life.
Here are a few ideas to ponder this summer to help you ignite your ideal life:
1. Write down your goals
If a genie showed up in front of you right now and offered to grant you a single wish – anything you desire to achieve or experience in your life – what would you wish for?
Maybe you’re looking to take your career or business to the next level, or maybe you’re looking to find more meaning or balance in your busy life. Whatever you desire, you are much more likely to achieve your “wish list” if you convert your desires into achievable goals.
Here is a little exercise I invite you to do to help you connect with what you truly desire:
Find a comfortable place where you will not be disturbed and sit in stillness for a few moments. Take several deep breaths to quiet your mind and then ask yourself the following questions:
- What is most important to me?
- What makes me happy and what do I enjoy doing the most?
- What achievements am I most proud of?
- What, if anything, do I wish was different in my life?
Now that you’ve considered what is most important to you, reflect on how you are currently honoring those things. Notice what you want more (or less) of in your life.
Write down one or more goals that you’d like to achieve. Then, consider the actions that you want to take to move forward. What is the first or next logical step to make your vision a reality? Know this: Small, steady steps often reap the greatest rewards and make goals more easily achievable.
2. Step out of your comfort zone: Embrace the unfamiliar.
What would you do if you knew without a shadow of a doubt that you would not fail? What actions would you take today to create the career and life of your dreams?
Most people do not create the changes that they want in their life because they are confined by their comfort zone, afraid to step into the unknown where true and lasting transformation often begins. Instead, they stay stuck holding onto inaccurate beliefs about reality from past conditioning and they doubt their future potential. Their negative thoughts cause them to live in a limited world of cant’s, don’ts, and shouldn’ts.
You can avoid this happening to you by becoming conscious of those negative thought patterns, and taking action to shift them to more positive thoughts that are aligned with your goals.
To start, take a few moments to think about your goals and ask yourself, “what do I believe about the changes that I wish to create in my life?” If you notice some fears, worries, or doubts coming up, challenge those thoughts by asking yourself, “how true are these beliefs?” Give your brain evidence that you can achieve your goals. For example, consider your strengths, skills, and past achievements. You can also look at other people who have successfully achieved the outcomes that you want.
Then, focus on the future that you wish to create – think about it, talk about it, write about it, or visualize the desired outcome as if you’re living it now, much like athletes prepare by mentally seeing themselves winning at their sport before the game has even begun. Take a few moments to imagine everything that you will see, hear, and feel when you achieve your goals.
Flood your subconscious mind – that powerful part of your mind that controls your behavior – with new thoughts and images that are aligned with your desired vision. For example, one of my goals is to lose the few pounds I gained while on a cruise a few weeks ago. In addition to being mindful about my eating habits and exercise routine, I master my mindset through a daily ritual of repeating powerful affirmations, such as “I am so happy and proud that I am at my ideal weight” and visualizing feeling great while wearing my favorite jeans!
3. Rest, recharge, and laugh!
I spent the last few weeks sightseeing, hiking, and deepening my relationships with family. With a yearly calendar full of client meetings and training events, I cherished this time away from routine.
Resting and re-energizing the mind and body in new ways is essential to good health. The problem is that many of us go through life in a perpetually busy, stressed out, and unbalanced state. When depleted this way, we can begin to distance ourselves from friends and family.
By making time to focus on yourself, you can feel more refreshed, clear, and creative and be more present with others. You also can become even more resilient in overcoming obstacles and challenges.
Here are a few simple tips to help you rejuvenate after a busy day:
• Take a leisurely walk (if you’re in sizzling Phoenix, take a leisurely swim!).
• Read a book that you enjoy.
• Write down at least one win or accomplishment that you’ve experienced. that day or at other times in your life (no matter how big or small).
• Listen to an inspiring talk or podcast.
• Look at photos of past vacations and good times.
• Spend time with someone who warms your hear.t
• Make a list of 3-5 things for which you are grateful.
• Smile and laugh (not only will you feel happier, but you will also be healthier because laughter boosts your immune system!).
Use this summer to grow and create momentum! When you clarify what you want, step out of your comfort zone, and take time off to rejuvenate, you will feel even happier and more motivated to create an extraordinary life.
To your joyful summer!
Note: The above photo of me (on the left) with my family was taken in Iceland.